Rom. 14:13-23, “There Are Times When Christians Must Agree To Disagree:  Part #2

 

By

Jim Bomkamp

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1.     INTRO:

 

1.1.                     In our last study, we looked at verses 1-12 of chapter 14.

 

1.1.1.  We saw that in Paul’s day there were enormous problems in the churches that had been planted in that first century of the church due to the various backgrounds and baggage that people brought with them into the church after coming to Christ. 

 

1.1.1.1.      Jewish brethren in the church in Rome had come to recognize Jesus as the Jewish Messiah and believed upon Him for salvation, however because of their Jewish upbringing and training they still held onto and practiced many things from their Jewish heritage, and they had a hard time understanding why everyone did not practice these same things.  Plus, they had a hard time befriending and accepting Gentile brothers and sisters as equal heirs of God, especially because many of the practices of the Gentiles were in violation of their Jewish Law.

 

1.1.1.2.      Likewise, Gentile brethren in the church in Rome had been raised up despising Jews and their superior attitudes.  They did not keep the Jewish laws and rituals after coming to Christ because they understood rightly so that salvation was by faith in Christ alone.  Also some were saying that if you were really spiritual that you wouldn’t eat meat since the meat in the market place is always sacrificed to demons before it is sold.  The Gentiles also tended to over use their freedom in Christ.

 

1.1.2.  We saw that in Christ we have been given a great amount of freedom for Paul even wrote, “all things are lawful but not all things are profitable.” 

 

1.1.3.  We saw that Paul referred to two kinds of brethren within the church, “weaker brothers” and “stronger brothers.”  We saw that contrary to what we might have initially thought would be the case that the “weaker brothers” were those who were more sensitive to certain kinds of conduct and behavior as being sinful.  The “stronger brothers” more correctly understood their freedom in Christ and didn’t have as many rules and regulations that they imposed upon themselves.

 

1.1.4.  We saw that in our world today that there are often problems that arise in the church due to the fact that some people think that if a person is truly a Christian that he/she ought to be living a certain way and forsaking certain types of worldly behavior that they believe is a compromise of their faith and a denial of their Lord.  There is a lot of judging and criticism of each other in the body of Christ today.  Many times in the church we are disjointed and don’t work together or particularly like each other, and, cliques often form within the church based around holding to certain types of convictions.

 

1.1.5.  We saw that there are several areas of conduct which Christians in America sometimes debate today, including :

 

movies; ratings, going at all;

TV;

makeup;

dress

women wearing pants or dresses, or even hats in church

electric guitars or pipe organs used for worship, or even no instruments at all

schools we send our kids to

tobacco;

alcohol;

cards & dice;

dancing;

Bible translations;

sports;

music;

 

1.1.6.  Christians who are genuinely and seriously following the Lord sometimes disagree about what is right and wrong behavior in certain situations, and we saw that there is a time and place when Christians in love need to agree to disagree with each other about certain things.

 

1.2.                     In our study today, we are going to look at verses 13-23 of chapter 14.

 

1.2.1.  In the New Testament we see that the Lord teaches us that we need to be particularly careful not to judge others, for instance :

 

1.2.1.1.      Jesus taught us in Matthew 7:1-3 that if we judge others that we ourselves will be judged by that same standard that we judge others by, 1 Do not judge so that you will not be judged. 2 “For in the way you judge, you will be judged; and by your standard of measure, it will be measured to you. 3 “Why do you look at the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye?”

 

1.2.1.2.      James 4:11-12, “11 Do not speak against one another, brethren. He who speaks against a brother or judges his brother, speaks against the law and judges the law; but if you judge the law, you are not a doer of the law but a judge of it. 12 There is only one Lawgiver and Judge, the One who is able to save and to destroy; but who are you who judge your neighbor?”

 

1.2.2.  In other places in scripture, we are told that we are to make judgments, for instance :

 

1.2.2.1.      1 Corinthians 2:15, “15 But he who is spiritual appraises all things, yet he himself is appraised by no one.” 

 

1.2.2.2.      1 Corinthians 5:12-13, “12 For what have I to do with judging outsiders? Do you not judge those who are within the church? 13 But those who are outside, God judges. Remove the wicked man from among yourselves.”

 

1.2.2.3.      1 John 4:1, “1 Beloved, do not believe every spirit, but test the spirits to see whether they are from God, because many false prophets have gone out into the world.”

 

1.2.3.  The judgment that we are told not to make involves a critical judgment of another, or acting as a judge and jury and condemning a person for his/her actions.  We are to be discriminating in our thinking regarding our conduct as well as the conduct of others.  We just are not supposed to hold a critical opinion of someone, especially when they are a brother or sister in Christ and we haven’t even gone to them and verified the situation and found out their side of the story regarding what act they allegedly have committed.

 

1.2.4.  Lets face it, we as Christians must make judgments every single day in which we live.  However, we must also be careful by what standard we judge another person, and thus Jesus taught us the following in John 7:24, “24 Do not judge according to appearance, but judge with righteous judgment.””  We must judge all things by the word of God, otherwise we will be like the Pharisees to whom Jesus said in Matt. 22:29, “You do error because you do not understand the scriptures.”  We must also not be hypocritical and judge others by one standard and ourselves by another, and we must not be harsh in our judgments.  We must imitate our Father in heaven in all that we do and think.

 

1.2.5.  Paul is going to tell us today that instead of judging our brother or sister in Christ that we ought instead to seek to not do anything to cause them to stumble.

 

1.2.6.  Paul will tell us that if we consider anything to be sin that it will be sin to us.

 

1.2.7.  Paul will talk about the importance of doing all that we do in the body of Christ in such a way that we are building up one another instead of tearing down each other.

 

1.2.8.  Paul will tell us that each of us need to be persuaded in our own minds about areas of conduct we allow in our life and that whatever we do that is not of faith will be accounted as sin to us.

 

1.2.9.  H.A. Ironside has written the following story concerning the folly of making snap judgments.  It’s a story Bishop Potter of New York used to tell on himself :

Bishop Potter was sailing for Europe in one of the great transatlantic liners. When he went on board, he found another passenger was to share the cabin with him. After going to see his accommodations, he came up to the purser’s desk and inquired if he could leave his gold watch and other valuables in the ship’s safe. He explained that ordinarily he never availed himself of that privilege, but he had been to his cabin and had met the man who was to occupy the other berth and, judging from his appearance, he was afraid that he might not be a trustworthy person.

The purser accepted the responsibility of caring for the valuables, and remarked; “It ’s all right, Bishop, I’ll be very glad to take care of them for you. The other man has been up here and left his for the same reason.”

 

2.     VS 14:13  - 13 Therefore let us not judge one another anymore, but rather determine this—not to put an obstacle or a stumbling block in a brother’s way. -  Paul tells us that because of what he has stated so far in this  chapter that we ought not to judge each other any more but rather determine not to cause a brother or a sister to stumble

 

2.1.                     In this verse, Paul gives the exhortation that though we as Christians have freedom in Christ, we should walk in love and determine not to allow our use of our freedom in Christ in such a way as to cause a brother or a sister in Christ to stumble.

 

2.2.                     The stumbling block referred to here by Paul would be any action that a believer might undertake which although it may not be sinful in and of itself, might cause another brother/sister to be tempted and to fall into sin.  A couple of examples of what I am I am saying constitutes causing a brother/sister to stumble in their faith might help :

 

2.2.1.  In Paul’s day, a brother might believe that he has the freedom to eat meet regardless of whether or not it had been sacrificed to an idol, since he understands correctly to eat meat bought in the market placed that he knew had been sacrificed to an idol would not be the same as worshipping an idol, however if a Gentile brother who had come out idolatry saw him, a Christian, do such a thing he might be tempted to follow his example however this could cause him to be tempted to get back into the worship of idols.

 

2.2.2.  Though we as Christians have the freedom to have a drink of alcohol, (though drunkenness is forbidden as sin in the scriptures) we should not invite our recovering alcoholic friend to go to a bar with us where people are drinking alcohol.  This would not be walking in God’s agape love, for this action could cause a brother or sister in Christ to stumble in sin.

 

2.3.                     If we are to be careful not to cause anyone to stumble in their walk with Christ by the things we allow in our own, then we must make it a point to always consider the weaknesses of the brothers/sisters that we find ourselves in contact with.  We must consider what may cause each person to stumble.  We must take this admonition to not make a brother or a sister to stumble in his/her walk in Christ very seriously, for Jesus told us the following in Mark 9:42, “42 Whoever causes one of these little ones who believe to stumble, it would be better for him if, with a heavy millstone hung around his neck, he had been cast into the sea. 

 

2.4.                     In order to encourage unity and love in the body of Christ it is important for us as Christians that we do not stir up arguments and contentions unnecessarily about things that aren’t of real importance.  For instance, Paul tells us in his writings to avoid speculations and arguments about minor doctrinal points in verses such as :

 

2.4.1.  2 Timothy 2:23, “23 But refuse foolish and ignorant speculations, knowing that they produce quarrels." 

 

2.4.2.  Titus 3:9, “9 But avoid foolish controversies and genealogies and strife and disputes about the Law, for they are unprofitable and worthless.”

 

2.5.                     We Christians must also realize that how we treat others is actually more important than that we get them to agree with our opinions.  We must act in a Christ-like manner in all that we do because we might win an argument with a person but lose a relationship with a brother or a sister in Christ in the process, or worse yet cause the person to stumble in his/her walk with Christ.  Therefore, we need to pray for the leading of the Holy Spirit in our conversations and that God gives us godly tact with which to discuss the truth of God’s word with others who may disagree with us.  The apostle Peter expresses the need for using godly tact while you defend your faith in 1 Peter 3:15-16, “15 but sanctify Christ as Lord in your hearts, always being ready to make a defense to everyone who asks you to give an account for the hope that is in you, yet with gentleness and reverence; 16 and keep a good conscience so that in the thing in which you are slandered, those who revile your good behavior in Christ will be put to shame.”

 

3.     VS 14:14  - 14 I know and am convinced in the Lord Jesus that nothing is unclean in itself; but to him who thinks anything to be unclean, to him it is unclean. -  Paul tells us that he is convinced from the Lord that nothing is unclean in and of itself unless you think that it is unclean

 

3.1.                     Paul writes in this verse, that if a Christian thinks that any conduct is a damning sin, then to him it is a damning sin.  In other words, if we are convinced that for instance  smoking will keep us from fellowship with the Lord, and then we start smoking, then our smoking will drive us away from the Lord.

 

3.2.                     Since what we believe to be a damning sin will become one if we then give in to it, we are going to be very wise if we are careful about what we believe in these areas.  We Christians must likewise be careful what we tell people is a sin, for if we believe what we are condemning as sin and then go and get involved in that activity ourselves, we will probably fall away from the Lord. 

 

4.     VS 14:15  - 15 For if because of food your brother is hurt, you are no longer walking according to love. Do not destroy with your food him for whom Christ died. -  Paul tells us that if we hurt a brother or a sister because of eating some sort of food then we are not walking according to love

 

4.1.                     Again, as I have previously mentioned regarding this chapter, Paul tells Christians in this chapter that they should do nothing that would cause a brother or a sister to stumble, for doing this is not walking in God’s agape love.

 

4.2.                     God loved the people of this world enough to send His only-begotten Son into the world to die for them, and therefore Paul exhorts us as Christians not to do anything that will ‘destroy’ the faith of the one who is so loved by God.

 

4.3.                     We Christians must never violate God’s agape love in our life, for in so doing people will be damaged and potentially stumble in their faith, and we shall be to blame.

 

5.     VS 14:16-18  - 16 Therefore do not let what is for you a good thing be spoken of as evil; 17 for the kingdom of God is not eating and drinking, but righteousness and peace and joy in the Holy Spirit. 18 For he who in this way serves Christ is acceptable to God and approved by men. -  Paul admonishes us that we must not let what is a good thing for us be spoken of as evil, for the kingdom of God does not consist of eating and drinking but righteousness and peace and joy in the Holy Spirit

 

5.1.                     In verse  16, what Paul is saying in essence I believe is this:  If you think that the Lord has given you freedom to do some things that might cause others to stumble, don’t do them if they might cause a brother to stumble, and thus your actions will be labeled as evil and you an evil-doer.

 

5.2.                     Paul compares the relative worth of various things in a Christian’s life in verse 17.  He says in essence that the really important and worthy aspects of a Christian’s life are not his ‘eating and drinking,’ but rather ‘righteousness and peace and joy in the Holy Spirit.’  The implied exhortation found in this verse then is that if curbing your freedom regarding what are really trivial matters in your life as a Christian has to be done in order for you to enjoy and be blessed with the deeper and more fulfilling aspects of your Christian walk, namely ‘righteousness and peace and joy in the Holy Spirit,’ then  your sacrifice is more than worth it.  Living righteously and having peace and joy in the Holy Spirit are a much greater blessing that expressing your freedom in Christ and ‘eating and drinking’ and living like the people of this world.

 

5.3.                     Then, Paul writes in verse 18 that if a person does curb his freedom out of love for his brother whom he does not want to stumble, then he will be accepted by God as well as looked up to and esteemed highly by men, for it is a worthy goal to obtain.

 

5.4.                     We Christians must dedicate ourselves to not placing too great of importance on the wrong things in our life.  We must not live in a selfish way not caring who may stumble because of our use of our freedom, nor whom we may hurt by our criticism and rejection of people because they disagree upon areas of conduct in their life.

 

6.     VS 14:19-21  - 19 So then let us pursue the things which make for peace and the building up of one another. 20 Do not tear down the work of God for the sake of food. All things indeed are clean, but they are evil for the man who eats and gives offense. 21 It is good not to eat meat or to drink wine, or to do anything by which your brother stumbles. -  Paul tells us to pursue the things that make for peace and the building up of one another, and never tear down the work of God

 

6.1.                     In verse 19, Paul repeats his exhortation to pursue ‘peace’ as a Christian, in so far as is possible and that you can do this without sinning.  Then, he says that the Christian is to be one who pursues ‘building up’ in the faith those who are around him.  He does not want in any way to “tear down” a brother or a sister in Christ, for he knows he should walk in God’s agape love.

 

6.2.                     In verse 20, Paul writes ‘All things indeed are clean, but they are evil for the man who eats and gives offense,’ and this is what I meant when I said that the Christian has been given freedom in Christ, and all things are lawful, however if a person really believes that certain activities will cause him to be separated from God, then these things will separate him from God if he does them.

 

6.3.                     In verse 21, Paul writes that a Christian should not participate in any activity or express his freedom in Christ in such a way that might cause a brother to stumble in his walk in the Lord.  Paul uses not eating meat or not drinking wine as examples of freedoms which a Christian might want to curtail so as to not cause a “weaker brother” or sister to stumble in his/her faith.

 

6.4.                     Let’s build up our brothers and sisters in Christ, and do nothing to tear them down.  If for instance you feel that you have freedom in Christ to drink alcohol but your brother whom you are with believes that it is a sin or he is a recovering alcoholic who could be tempted to drink, then do not drink when you are with that brother.  Express your freedom later when your brother is not around.

 

6.5.                     There are some Christians who are never content unless everyone around them holds every one of their convictions, whatever they may be.  They can’t accept a brother or sister who does not hold to their personal convictions in these “grey” areas, however they are just a thorn in our side and trouble the church greatly.

 

7.     VS 14:22-23  - 22 The faith which you have, have as your own conviction before God. Happy is he who does not condemn himself in what he approves. 23 But he who doubts is condemned if he eats, because his eating is not from faith; and whatever is not from faith is sin. -  Paul tells us that the faith that we have we are to have as our own conviction before God and that the man who does not condemn himself in what he approves will be happy, for whatever is not from faith is sin

 

7.1.                     In verse 22, Paul says in essence that if a Christian has convictions about not doing certain things, then he should basically just keep quiet about it and walk before God with his ‘own conviction.’  In other words, don’t bug anyone else about the things that you happen to have a conviction about doing or not doing.  Then, Paul says that a Christian will be ‘happy’ and blessed if he follows his own convictions and avoids the things that he feels that the Lord has told him not to do.

 

7.2.                     Rom. 3:33 & 4:5 told us that righteousness and salvation itself came by faith.  Now, in verse 23 Paul tells us that whatever we do in our life that is not of faith is sin.  This principle has universal application in our lives as Christians, and this verse is often used in Bible teaching to make that point.  As I have mentioned many times before, our lives are in every sense to be lived in faith for faith is sort of like the conduit within which the Lord works in our lives.

 

7.3.                     In his writings Paul often mentions the fact that whatever a Christian does must be done in faith, and in verse 23 Paul writes that if a person does things which his conscience tells him not to do, that he will be ‘condemned,’ and that his not doing what he does in ‘faith’ will then cause him to sin.  Whatever a Christian does that is not done in ‘faith’ therefore is sin.

 

7.4.                     Concerning these grey areas of the Christian life which a person may convictions about, we saw previously in verse 5 that Paul wrote the “grey” area convictions we might have saying, "Let every one be fully convinced in his own mind."  Phillips translation renders verse 5 like this, "Your personal convictions are a matter of faith between yourself and God, and you are happy if you have no qualms about what you allow yourself to eat." We Christians can and we will have convictions that go beyond what is black and white in the scriptures, however we must not impose those convictions upon others.  Since the scripture is not black and white on the issue we should be resigned that God knows we are right even if some brethren may not think so.  We must never act against our personal conviction however, for to do so is rebellion against God and will be counted as sin to us.

 

7.5.                     I would like to leave you with a final exhortation from Paul in the book of Ephesians, chapter 4 verses 1-3, “4:1 I, therefore, the prisoner of the Lord, entreat you to walk in a manner worthy of the calling with which you have been called, 2 with all humility and gentleness, with patience, showing forbearance to one another in love, 3 being diligent to preserve the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace.”

 

8.     CONCLUSIONS:

 

8.1.                     Longfellow wrote, “We judge ourselves by what we feel capable of doing, while others judge us by what we have already done.”

 

8.2.                     In the book, “The Imitation Of Christ,” Thomas A Kempis wrote the following about how to avoid making rash judgments :

TURN your attention upon yourself and beware of judging the deeds of other men, for in judging others a man labors vainly, often makes mistakes, and easily sins; whereas, in judging and taking stock of himself he does something that is always profitable.

We frequently judge that things are as we wish them to be, for through personal feeling true perspective is easily lost.

If God were the sole object of our desire, we should not be disturbed so easily by opposition to our opinions. But often something lurks within or happens from without to draw us along with it.

Many, unawares, seek themselves in the things they do. They seem even to enjoy peace of mind when things happen according to their wish and liking, but if otherwise than they desire, they are soon disturbed and saddened. Differences of feeling and opinion often divide friends and acquaintances, even those who are religious and devout.

An old habit is hard to break, and no one is willing to be led farther than he can see.

If you rely more upon your intelligence or industry than upon the virtue of submission to Jesus Christ, you will hardly, and in any case slowly, become an enlightened man. God wants us to be completely subject to Him and, through ardent love, to rise above all human wisdom.

 

8.3.                     There is a saying that is worthy of always keeping in mind, it goes like this, “Never judge a man by what he says; try and find out why he said it.  Use conflicts that arise as opportunities to get to know a brother or sister better.  Inquire of them as to why that they do or do not hold to certain convictions.  You will find after doing this that there is much more that you agree with them about than you disagree about.

 

8.4.                     Lets be committed to the principle that concerning the black and white areas of scripture that we as Christians should be in agreement, however concerning the grey areas that there are times when we must agree to disagree with those who do not hold our convictions, nor we their’s.

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